Why Not Being First Can Be a Positive Experience

Why Not Being First Positive Experience, by Shirley George Frazier. All rights reserved.

Why Not Being First Can Be a Positive Experience, by Shirley George Frazier. All rights reserved.Mae watches her brother, Pepi, to see if he can squeeze through a small space. If he makes it, she comes through the space, too.

She also waits until he successfully leaps from the living room ottoman onto the couch. For her, that proves she’ll also leap without falling.

Pepi is smart, and Mae is, too, in her own right. Mae’s thought process is, “Why not let someone else pave the way for me?”

There’s nothing wrong with being a leader. My own life is and continues to be filled with firsts. However, there are times when I let other people smooth the surface on a new path so I don’t stumble.

Is that how you approach certain things in life, or is it a must that you be first?

Either answer is fine as long as you’re happy. The bottom line is to be content without anyone else’s influence or opinion.

In 2009, I attended a convention in Las Vegas where a person, who was quite influential on the Internet, was in attendance. I found him, introduced myself, and mentioned my plan to experiment with a software product. His face showed displeasure as he asked, “So you’re not an early adopter?” My answer was “No,” and he abruptly ended our conversation.

This person acted as though I was wrong for doing things according to my own schedule. That stance dimmed my opinion of him.

I decided to not be an early adopter of a product someone else favors. The decision was and is still right for me.

We cannot all be first in line like those who camp out in front of Apple stores days before a new technology is available for sale. I’m very happy about that, because sleeping on the sidewalk waiting for the next iPhone release rather than sleeping comfortably in my bed is not worth a three-second sound bite on television.

It’s okay to wait to see how a new recipe comes together for others or wait to hear another person’s opinion about a new movie or book or shoe style.

Be first if you want; wait if you want. Be influenced by nothing except your own agenda.

While Mae watches her brother’s next move, tell me:

What are you waiting for to be tested by others so the path is smooth?


How will your first-in-line plan shape your exceptional life?

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Shirley George Frazier is an author and speaker on small business, marketing, and creative industries. She is the world's expert on the gift basket industry, assisting manufacturers and retailers seeking to add this lucrative revenue stream to their businesses. Call Shirley at 973-279-2799 or email Shirley@ShirleySpeaks.com to schedule a gift basket consultation or have her speak at your next event.

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